Heart for Marriage Boot Camp

I’ve always believed marriage is a wonderful, beautiful, mysterious picture of who God is and what he does for us through the Gospel.  What a blessing to have someone who will be by your side no matter what. Yet if I’m vulnerable and honest sometimes my marriage feels like a petri dish, where my sin grows into something ugly and destructive. I am often shocked at how I react to my wife Jessica when conflict arises. I can be defensive, critical, lacking empathy and down right unloving. Recently our mutual struggle led us to marriage counseling. I was a little nervous and prideful. I thought, “What will Christian counselors tell me “the pastor” I can’t tell myself?”

As it turns out, a lot.  I learned how to preach the gospel to myself in all circumstances; a truth I thought I understood already.  They taught me to remember how Jesus treats me and how I can remember those truths during tense moments of conflict.  Truly, the last few months of marriage counseling has affected my heart more than anything in recent memory. Was our marriage horrible? No, but a better question would be: was it centered on and fueled by Jesus? That answer would also be no, at least not in practice, especially not in the day to day minutiae of life.

On Sunday we heard from Ephesians 5:22-33 (Listen HERE) that a biblical marriage is centered on being Christ to one another. I’ve struggled with that and I know I’m not alone. I thought “how great would it be” if we could get the couples in Redemption to have a similar experience to what Jess and I just had in counseling. I asked and our counselors proposed something called Marriage Boot Camp: A 29 day experience to strengthen marriage through two great options:

Option 1

Two days of teaching from Jessica and I’s counselors, Kimball and Elizabeth.  Their teaching is profound and practical; less counting down from ten and more asking “how can I remember Jesus when I’m feeling defensive?” and “how can the gospel move me away from bad habits in marriage?”. We can all use help in our marriages regardless of how great we think we’re doing. To be as straightforward as I can, my hope is that every married person in our church goes to this portion of the Marriage Boot Camp. The two teaching times will be on September 30th and October 28th from 3:00pm to 5:00pm. This option costs $50 per couple.

Option 2

Two days (same as above dates) of small group counseling with Kimball and Elizabeth with you and your spouse and four other couples. Note: This is in addition to the training times from the first option. Two group times are available: One from 1:00pm to 3:00pm and the other from 5:00pm to 7:00pm with 5 openings for couples at each time slot*.  You’ll be given tools, scripture and daily emails to engage with over the course of the month between meetings. My hope is that those that feel stuck or even hopeless in their marriage would jump on this opportunity. Maybe you would love intentional time to improve your marriage or get better equipped, this would be great for you as well. This option costs $150 per couple. Childcare will be available during both options.


Questions or Want to Sign up?

Please don’t allow the stigma of being in counseling or fear of having others hear your struggles stop you from taking part.  The church is messy, with sinful people clinging to God’s grace. Also, don’t let the cost stop you from going. If you know you need this, we will help find a way to  get you and your spouse there. Join us, we think God will use this opportunity in amazing ways to bring love and life to our homes. If you have questions email anthonygee@redemptionaz.com. If you’re ready to sign up you can do so HERE.