Heart for Marriage Boot Camp
I’ve always believed marriage is a wonderful, beautiful, mysterious picture of who God is and what he does for us through the Gospel. What a blessing to have someone who will be by your side no matter what. Yet if I’m vulnerable and honest sometimes my marriage feels like a petri dish, where my sin grows into something ugly and destructive. I am often shocked at how I react to my wife Jessica when conflict arises. I can be defensive, critical, lacking empathy and down right unloving. Recently our mutual struggle led us to marriage counseling. I was a little nervous and prideful. I thought, “What will Christian counselors tell me “the pastor” I can’t tell myself?”
As it turns out, a lot. I learned how to preach the gospel to myself in all circumstances; a truth I thought I understood already. They taught me to remember how Jesus treats me and how I can remember those truths during tense moments of conflict. Truly, the last few months of marriage counseling has affected my heart more than anything in recent memory. Was our marriage horrible? No, but a better question would be: was it centered on and fueled by Jesus? That answer would also be no, at least not in practice, especially not in the day to day minutiae of life.
On Sunday we heard from Ephesians 5:22-33 (Listen HERE) that a biblical marriage is centered on being Christ to one another. I’ve struggled with that and I know I’m not alone. I thought “how great would it be” if we could get the couples in Redemption to have a similar experience to what Jess and I just had in counseling. I asked and our counselors proposed something called Marriage Boot Camp: A 29 day experience to strengthen marriage through two great options: